May 29, 2008

Thoughts on friendship and marriage

It's interesting the trade-offs we make. A single gal can surround herself with other young women of similar tastes with whom to travel, eat, talk, etc. A married woman is companioned by this amazing man that she wouldn't trade for the world who nevertheless listens to very different music, doesn't have the same burning desire to take a walking tour of England, and doesn't get excited about farmer's markets. There's a few as might think the former picture is nicer, but the prevailing sentiment (and rightfully so) is that marriage is the preferred state. I think this just points out though how much we women really need each other whether single or married. Face it, there are times when it seems I have three interests to Allen's one. Which is not to say that he's single minded by any means. I've yet to see a subject on which he couldn't talk. It's just that I'm something of a jill of all trades with a huge area of interests that really aren't even on his radar, and some of this is simply because I'm a woman. They keep saying it, and it's true. Your husband can't be everything. We need our friends to help us keep going and growing.

4 comments:

Carla Jean said...

Yes ma'am we do, regardless of our station in life!

We ought to meet up and wander around Pepper Place one Saturday soon. Not this week (I have got to write and write and write all weekend, with a few pre-planned diversions) but definitely soon. You think?

susan said...

I know that's true, but to be perfectly honest I so prefer the company of my husband to the company of any other person on the planet and I've found that he is the very only one who is really there for me when I need it. I love my other family members and I so want to be there for my friends, but he's just got my number in a totally unique way. I wouldn't want to spend a moment on the face of the earth without him.

Natalie_S said...

Hmm, yeah, don't get me wrong. I love, love, love being with Allen and doing stuff with Allen. However, since Allen works from home, and I don't have a job right now you must understand that I'm coming at the this from the perspective of spending a whole lot of time around Allen and a whole lot less time around other people. Also, for all the ways in which Allen and I completely click, there are some very obvious ways in which we struggle to accommodate each other. He's a huge, huge computer person. To him it's work and play. I want to go camping, shopping, exploring, etc. You've got to find your feet in there somehow and make it work. For me I think getting out there for myself and not hogging Allen's downtime is important.

susan said...

Oh, no doubt. I just have a hard time doing that sometimes. Cause I'm a little weird I think. :-)